tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-48561187959010059792024-03-05T18:29:34.298+11:00Rantings from The Walking Dictionary!Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-75136875100398201762010-11-10T20:30:00.002+11:002010-11-10T20:30:12.627+11:00FML SOMETIMES!!<div>Could I just have one week where nothing breaks down or goes wrong???washing machine shorted the house out at 3am Tuesday. Had to unplug everything in the dark cause I didn't know it was the washing machine at that stage, then ring the neighbour as his dogs don't like ppl near their fenceline at any time let alone 3am. Then climb out a window to get to power box (easiest route with no lights) and switch house back on. With me working thurs/fri/sat the earliest the repairman can get to it is next Monday. It was mid load with work clothes, kids swimmers & schoolwear & the mans work uniform. Handwashed swimmers & chucked the rest in the bathtub, but got sidetracked by preteen not doing as asked, came back inside & thought wow sounds like a waterfall OH Shite!!! Bathtub overflowing onto bathroom floor. 6 towels later it's semi dry. Preteen not listening, late for swimming, get there boo has no goggles. Grrrrrrr Grrrr grrr!! Working extra days this week & next week which is good for the bank balance but extra pita when trying to get repairmen out, plus washing machine will eat a chunk of paypacket & car is making weird flashing on dash when first started, so guarantee it needs to visit the mechanic real soon (I told it that if it breaks down before then that I am walking away & leaving it there). In the next three weeks have six school things to attend or drop kids off to, booked in to do a 2day course, working 8 days & attending 2 bday parties with kids, so can't afford car to break down (work is 40mins @ avg 80km/hr away, walking is not an option). Oh yeah & have to deal with centrelink again :/ So please God, CeilingCat & any other entity, let me get through the next three weeks!!!</div>Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-33814155366006260382010-06-19T21:54:00.000+10:002010-06-19T21:54:42.678+10:00So what do you do when ......????????????????????Your man has a low libido and only goes to bed to snore?????????<br />
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Your man spends all day watching porn while you are at work and then pays no attention to you when you get home?????<br />
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Notices all the "chicks" at the gym in the distracting lycra but is embarassed to be seen with you at the gym cause you are a little overweight and he is now getting muscly and confident with his appearance???????<br />
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Wants you to be fit and lose weight, wear sexy clothes etc, but doesn't want to help or support you to do so???<br />
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Has a tonne of internet profiles and only one says "in a relationship", the rest say single, or nothing at all, none of them mention my name, none of them have a photo of us together or even just a pic of me with girlfriend or partner labelled on it????????<br />
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Spends all his time reading posts on a forum written by males who believe "alpha" means treating all women with disrespect, calling them bishes and ho's and picks up bad mannerisms and patterns of speech and even in his own words, needs to stay away from it, but keeps going back like an addiction???????????<br />
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Yet he helps out around the house even though it isnt his home, buys food when he knows i am having a tight financial week, helps out with my kids sometimes & late at night he has nightmares if I am not sleeping next to him.<br />
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What am I supposed to think or do??<br />
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I am sooo confused.<br />
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I love this man, I want to marry him. Even more, I want him to love me so much that he wants to marry me. That he has eyes for no other woman, let alone "chicks". That he is proud to be with me, to have me in his life and wants the world to know it.Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-33175316070562743612010-06-08T23:11:00.000+10:002010-06-08T23:11:56.791+10:00Where do I belong?I feel like I am living a kids story, and maybe I am. I often feel like I am the "ugly black duckling" and I keep waiting to turn into the beautiful swan & find that I do belong somewhere, that I fit in, am accepted. <br />
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Is it silly to think that being married makes you belong to another family? My own family (parents/siblings) barely recognise my existance, and while my boyfriends family seem to accept me, I always feel on the outside, cause even after 6 years and six months together, I am still just the girlfriend. His brother got married last year, his parents havent even met her yet (the brother and his wife live overseas), yet when family emails or facebook posts get sent, it seems she is automatically accepted because she married one of the family. Is it so wrong that I want this kind of belonging and acceptance too? And not just from the family, I want it from my boyfriend, I want to know that he accepts me for who i am and is proud to tell the world that by wanting me as his wife, not just as the invisible girlfriend that has never met any of his friends, isnt listed as being linked to him on anything, not even stupid facebook page. <br />
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I am only months of finishing my degree and hopefully will get a post graduate position in the hospital of my choice as a Registered Nurse. I will then BELONG to one of the oldest professions and I know there is a culture in itself as being a NURSE. I will be part of a worldwide group, a country, state and local group and also as part of the hospital group and even down to a single ward or speciality. I look forward to this as I have never had that sort of experience in a workplace before either and friends who are already working as RN's have told me about it. So at least professionally, I will belong somewhere.<br />
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But I crave the personal belonging. I hate being alone all the time. I try not to be jealous of others, but those people who can call on their parents or siblings for help, who go to family gatherings for special occasions, the ones who get to have things like baby showers or bridal showers ( i never had either of those) and get surprise parties or even just parties thrown for them on special birthdays etc. I want those things and cant have them. <br />
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I am actually dreading next april, as I will graduate then (lol graduation will happen 7 months after I actually finish my degree). I am going to be surrounded by other graduates with their families celebrating their acheivements, whilst I will be lucky if i have my boyfriend and my children there. Considering I wont be able to organise them and get them there (I will have to be there much earlier from what I have seen of friends graduations), it could very well just be me there, graduating with noone I know to see it, let alone take photos of me. I certainly wont have parents there, I am the first in the family to ever go to university, let alone graduate and my family couldnt give a passing thought about it, let alone care to attend my graduation ceremony. <br />
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I have been feeling very emotionally precious lately. Time seems to fly away from me and I fear that I will end up growing old by myself, I watch my father doing this as he has pushed away every member of family other than my grandmother (his mother) and I hate that I cant do anything to please him, nothing at all, I am never good enough. He doesnt like my boyfriend, when I tell him my good grades he comments that he wonders if i will complete this, seeing as i have never completed anything else as far as he is concerned (it never occurs to him that maybe the lack of supportive family since i was 9 years old may have something to do with this fact, or that I have raised two children without any family support counts as completing something?).<br />
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I am probably repeating things I have put in previous posts, but they are ongoing worries and fears. I dont know yet how to get past them. I will share the secrets when I learn them. <br />
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The end of this year brings many changes. I will finish uni, finish up my parttime work, hopefully have been offered and accepted a good post graduate position, have my house up for sale & sold at a good price and then be able to find a nice bit of land and build the home we want on that bit of land and start to live a more stable, secure life as our own little family unit. I still dont know if my boyfriend will be with us or not (he doesnt seem to be able to commit and one minute he seems interested and then the next he doesnt, who knows???) so all I can do is plan for me and two children. Would definitely make it easier if there were two adults and two incomes, but I cant guarantee that, so will just have to do the best i can with just me. <br />
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As usual, it will be me against the world. Maybe one day I will belong.......Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-42354548676975187202010-05-12T16:11:00.001+10:002010-05-12T16:32:55.849+10:00My WOW MomentMy WOW moment! Had to share, sorry if it sounds like bragging, it is sort of, but not really, just had the most amazing experience. Have de-personalised info, so as not to be breaking privacy rights of the patient.<br />
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On a previous practicum placement in an Emergency Department assigned to an older RN who wasn't too happy to be lumped with a final year student RN, amongst doing a really wicked wound packing/dressing & other things, I picked up on a patient being not quite right. A lovely person who had been so bright and chirpy when I started my shift, was now lying scrunched up, apparently sleeping, but it just didnt feel right, couldnt explain why, it just didnt.<br />
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So seeing as I could, I did the most obvious thing to me, I stood there while they appeared to sleep (and everyone else had thought they were sleeping) and counted the respirations (how many times their chest rose/fall for a full minute). Now the average adult breaths about 12 - 18 times a minute, generally closer to 12 when lying down in a bed, and this tiny little adult person was breathing 31+ breaths per minute - first alarm bell!!! & I could see some tracheal tugging, just faintly, but there - second alarm bell!!!. <br />
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So I checked oxygen sats and they were 88%- third alarm bell!! (you need to be above 95%, preferably closer to 100% ). So put oxygen on and sat person up a bit more in the bed, got another pillow to help prop person up a bit better, and person told me inbetween their lungs was hurting and so was their back - 4th alarm bell!!!. <br />
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So I put 2 and 2 together and instead of getting 4, I got a window of clarity!! All that study paid off!<br />
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So talking to the other RN I was attached to (being still a student myself I am limited to what I can do without supervision, but this RN didn't mind having me in her space or bugging her to come do something), I said I wanted to do an ECG, was told patient had had one earlier thatmorning, but yes go do one for practice, will be a good learning tool. So I do the ECG, and dig out the earlier one, and go show the RN, cause my patient wasnt just a good learning tool, they had just had a very obvious infarct!!! (my window of clarity). So then i go get the doctor involved, and now the doctor is talking to me like I am a very important person, rather than just another student.<br />
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Then I get to use the brand new, noone ever used it before, new monitoring equipment, and modify it to suit my patient, and by then the patients designated RN (the one who isn't so happy to be lumped with me and is now even less happy about it) is back, only to find out all of this has happened and all this stuff has and is being done by the student, so I spent the rest of the day doing obs on this patient every half an hour, doing all the documentation (there is lots of that!!), the doctor kept coming to me to ask for information and to get things done for the patient (some of which I cant do yet as a student, so then I had to go round up the RN - total role reversal there lol and no RN likes it when the student is doing their job better than they are!!). In the end the patient, who before I counted her resps was being readied for discharge, ended up being admitted to the HDU instead, so I got to do all the admission and ward transfer paperwork as well (paperwork is endless, good thing I don't mind it too much lol).<br />
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Oh yeah and somewhere in there i got to do other stuff for other patients as well.<br />
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At the end of the day I got praised by the RN infront of the afternoon staff, thanked by three staff members, had two doctors talking to me as if I was an equal, and then praised by my clinical teacher (who was informed by the doctor!! about her wonderful student) at debriefing, who told the other students infront of me (and I am not good at accepting public praise) saved a patients life today. Then the other nursing student staying here in the accommodation told the med students how I saved a life today.<br />
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Yet at the time it didnt seem such a big deal, i was just doing what needed to be done. It was just so obvious to me, like second nature (which it isnt, most of the time I feel like I am a bumbling fool learning my way around in a new and strange world). So I was feeling a little dazed when clinical teacher and the other student were making a fuss over me.<br />
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So after a celebratory meal with the other nursing student, and a small celebratory drink (i dont drink beer, so I had some Green Ginger Wine - Stones of course), I am sitting here doing my daily "reflective practice log" thinking WOW I DID THAT!! BY MYSELF!!! I may very well have saved that persons life. <br />
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Considering my career path its pretty certain this is the first of many, but WOW!!!!!Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-82997144383413201022010-05-12T15:35:00.001+10:002010-05-12T15:53:13.760+10:00HI BLOG! I HAVEN'T FORGOTTEN YOU!Wow life gets so busy that even though I write wonderful blog posts in my head while I am pretending to sleep at night, or while I am sitting at one of my children's extra curricular activities, I never actually get on here to blog it. <br />
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I am a walking ball of stress lately, assignments, practicum placements, getting a preteen ASD child accepted into a high school for next year, trying to work out where I want a post graduate year before I need to put in the applications to the dept of health, trying to work out where I am going to go when I move out of this house, facing the fears that it isn't all planned and in front of me - very scary indeed!<br />
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My man seems to have become more settled, mature maybe, focused and committed even and this is helping as I am feeling a bit safer there, but in four or five months time i am going to be uprooting my entire family out of the house I own, to clean it up and sell it, but I don't know yet WHERE we are moving too, so this is not going to help any feeling of security. <br />
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Why is it that some people seem to have such simple easy lives, no matter what they do they never seem to have stress? They don't have partners walk out on them, they seem to have the perfect life, families that are supportive no matter what they do, good jobs that are never unstable or uncertain??? <br />
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I want that life, but its not possible, for starters I don't have the supportive family, even though I have 2 brothers, 2 sisters, a father and a mother, I really don't have any family at all. <br />
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My mother might as well be dead for all the interaction I have had with her in the last 20 years, in fact as far as she is concerned, I am dead. One of my sisters moved to the other end of the country to get away from everyone (didn't work very well, my mother learnt how to get to the airport and fly cross country, which means her plane flies right over my house, yet she has never been here and never will by her own choice anyway). My other sister is the baby of the family and in her early twenties and still acting like a spoilt three year old. I had hope that she might grow out of the foot stamping and tantrums, but from what I am told, its still happening. <br />
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My brothers, well I love them both, but they are still at home, still haven't ever had to look after themselves let alone anyone else, so they never think about anyone but themselves, they work, sleep, eat & play computer games. I keep hoping that they will meet a nice girl and move out of home and settle down to adult life, but as they get closer and closer to being 30, the chances are getting slimmer. At least I get to see one of them every now and then, when I travel interstate and arrange to see him, it never happens the other way around. This is a pity as he would make such a great uncle, but my kids only get to see him once or twice a year and only when he is at work or occasionally has the time to come see a movie with us while we are visiting him.<br />
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And then there is my father. I used to be angry at the way he treated me, but all I feel is sorrow and pity for him now. He is determined to die a lonely old man. He will turn 60 on Saturday and will spend the day by himself, away on yet another business trip! He has a wife and three daughters, a sister, a mother and a granddaughter, but he HATES WOMEN! The only one he goes out of his way to see or speak to is his mother, who is 89 and has the early stages of dementia happening, the rest of us he has driven away. I keep trying every now and then, but I cant force him to like me or want to see me. Of all his children, and all of his family, I am the very first to ever go to university, and this year I will complete my degree, so I will be the most qualified member of the family, but even this isn't good enough. Out of all my grades, I currently have 9 distinctions, 5 credits & a single Pass (of the gradeable units), so not a bad effort considering I also have children to take care of, paid employment to attend too and all the other things a mother has to do, yet I still cant even get my father to acknowledge I have done something with my life. <br />
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So, the only family I have that I can count on are my children, currently aged 9 and 12. My aunty is wonderful, but she is busy and has her own life and she lives 3 hours away, so we don't get to see her regularly either, but when we do, she is like a grandmother to my children, spoiling them & making them feel wanted and loved, which is good considering my own mother doesn't even acknowledge their existence. <br />
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Other than my children, there is my partner, yet I am reluctant to rely on him, I am still fearful of the past and this is going to take time to change the insecurities, especially when those insecurities get thrown in my face when I see or hear a certain persons name. I still feel like crawling into a hole, curling up in a ball and dieing every time he mentions her or looks at her web pages. Its been two years next month, but it still hurts like hell and has me waking up shaking in cold sweats from the nightmares. I do trust him, but I don't know how to let go of the fear and insecurity. It isn't as bad as it was, it is slowly fading, but I often wonder if it will ever fully go away. I was too trusting back then, was completely secure and happy and then everything shattered around me and I don't know how to get back to that feeling of secure and happy. I get close and then she crops up in the computers history or gets mentioned for some reason and the nightmares and the doubts and fears start again. I wonder if this is normal, then I see and read about other females who have had similar situations and a lot of them are far worse off than me. Most of them never get their partner back, so I guess I am lucky, mine didn't wander too far and didn't physically cheat on me, but I still felt very betrayed and hurt, and that is what took so long to heal. This is something only I can change or deal with though.<br />
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And all of the above is why I am so scared of not knowing what is going to happen next, where I am going to and what I am going to do. Cause it all falls down to me being in charge, I don't have anyone to share that burden with. I am old fashioned and believe in marriage, but even that is not a certainty or a guarantee that it will work. Let alone my partner not only doesn't believe in marriage, he is dead set against it. So as much as I might dream, it isn't going to happen. I will be lucky if he ever even admits I am his partner. In six years, he has met a lot of my friends (only ones he hasn't met are the ones I haven't physically seen in those years, like my beautiful friend who moved back to Egypt). The only friend of my partners I have ever met is the one girl mentioned above, because I needed to see her face to face to deal with my demons. I have been back to his hometown with him several times, but he never visits anyone. I am in his friends list on facebook (finally, only took 5 years) but there is no link saying I am anything but a random friend. I don't even have a single bit of jewellery that I can look at and say "he gave me that". I still have no idea why that is important to me, it just is and as he hates jewellery (something to do with the fat cats making money off silly females that like shiny things), well it's pretty much a given that I will never get a piece of jewellery from him. I guess I cling to the idea of marriage because it is a public form of commitment and I am still a scared little girl who fears being alone. I probably should have been of marriageable age in the fifties, what I crave seems to be of no importance to men or society in general in this day and age.<br />
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So now I have to try and plan for at least the next 12 months, without knowing where I will be, if I will have a post graduate placement, or if I will have to hunt for suitable employment without the safety barrier of a post graduate year (extra support and learning packages etc but only a limited number of local placements available each year). Add to this moving out of my home. My eldest starting high school (and all the fears that go with that, especially as he needs the extra security and help and moving house isn't going to be helping all that). I pray that he will be accepted into the school we want, as he will have friends there, and they provide extra help and support and can offer him so many opportunities that just aren't available at other schools. <br />
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My poor Boo is always left out, I feel guilty that most of my worry goes to my Moo. I don't worry so much about Boo as she is so independent and capable, just like I was at her age, although I was more mature then because I had to be as eldest child, whereas she is the baby, but I am happy she doesn't have to have the responsibilities I had back then, she gets more of a chance to have a normal child hood. She will succeed no matter what, she is too stubborn to do otherwise. Today she is sitting Naplan tests for reading and comprehension for year 3. She tells me this morning at the school gate that she will do well as she is aiming to beat her brothers marks. I tell her this wont be hard to achieve cause he never even sat the year 3 Naplan testing (seeing as the school he was at back then didn't think he could read at all, they simply didn't include him in the testing, stupid school considering he was reading at tertiary level, he just didn't find their books interesting enough to read to them). However I think my Boo is trying to beat his year 5 NAPLAN scores, which he tested at above year 7 level for reading and poor Boo is slightly dyslexic, so I am not sure its possible for her to test that high in year 3. However with her determination, by the time she sits the year 5 tests, I wont be the slightest bit surprised when she tests higher out of pure stubbornness!!! I know I wont have to worry about her being accepted to any high school, all her report cards talk about her willingness, her extraordinary effort, her wonderful personality, her compliance with every request the teacher makes, how she helps other students. She is never the top of the class in grades, but she is never far behind and her effort makes up for that fact (unlike Moo who can be the top of the grades without any effort but half the time doesn't try at all and it shows). <br />
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OK blog, well that's enough insecurities and fears and hopes and random ravings for now. I still have an assignment to write, kids to collect from the bus stop, extra curricular activities to attend to and plenty of housework (never ending!) that needs to be done.<br />
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I will try to get on here more often and write something witty and cheerful for a change lol. I am always surprised anyone reads what I write (most especially my anonymous reader who comments that he/she/it doesn't like my writing style, so I have no idea why they read it, considering its my blog I don't really have to conform to any style, there are no rules involved!)<br />
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Thank you blog for letting me get this out of my head, its like a form of counselling, without having to tell this all to a counsellor, or even open my mouth. Actually its better than counselling, cause I don't have to explain what I mean if I don't want too (or simply can't).<br />
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HUGS!Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-41144494019553266762009-11-04T00:35:00.001+11:002009-11-04T00:35:24.552+11:00The Hard Way<p>Everything I have learnt in life was learnt the hard way, making mistakes, facing consequences, sometimes having to make multiple mistakes of similar nature to learn that they all end with the same set of consequences. I keep wondering when I will get to be able to learn and do things the easy way.</p> <p>Well now I am wondering if I am going to yet again learn the hard way. </p> <p>You see tonight, well I gave the man I love a letter, telling him a lot of the things that I cant voice aloud, or things that I did voice that he seems to have not heard or dismissed as me being dramatic. I told him exactly what I wanted and asked him to go spend some time away from me and to work out what it is that he wants now and for the next ten or twenty years (at least). I also put a somewhat of a demand in there, he HAS to make a decision and tell me what it is.</p> <p>So if I have made a mistake then I may just have ended my relationship with the only man I have ever loved so much that it physically hurts when he isn't here or we have an argument.</p> <p>If I haven't made that mistake then maybe he will finally make a decision and I wont have to live in limbo while I wait, teetering between two extremes - fearing he will find something better and just walk out or hoping he will realise that our relationship is worth it and that while his parents and my parents may have stuffed up their marriages, that not all marriages equal doom.</p> <p>See the biggest problem is that I crave the security of knowing that he is committed to us, he fears any form of commitment, most especially anything related to marriage.</p> <p>I have been married once before (one of my learnt the hard way lessons). The man I love had never had a relationship last even six months, until he met me. Last year after 5 and a bit years together, he walked out, well not physically at first (its long and complicated, like everything else in my life – add sarcastic yet sad lol) and then after months of angst and pain, including him moving temporarily to his mothers place and then into a granny flat, he realised it was me that he wanted after all (long story, but he was/is suffering depression, and had never had to look after himself for more than a few days, so didn't realise what he had until he threw it away). Anyway, since valentines day we have been back together, not officially for a bit, but slowly working on it and doing ok for the most part.</p> <p>There are still issues that plague us and that commitment thing is the crux of it, because it seems to be linked to his depression, and because the fear of not knowing, the living in limbo, makes me a walking emotional hormonal mess. </p> <p>Oh and just to add to the list of problems, because of the depression, he has a lower libido than me (very backwards there, I was always sure it was the male that was supposed to want sex ten times a day, not the female), and because he works long hours in a physically demanding job, then spends 2 to 3 hours an evening punishing himself in the gym (yes he does look good with muscles and it makes him feel better about himself), he is too tired to be interested in anything else on a regular or even semi regular basis, making me a very edgy and unhappy girl, who just wants to know she is wanted and needed and loved by the only man she has eyes for.</p> <p>So apparently I am weird, not only do I have the unusually high libido, I also would happily go live in the fifties, where the men did the men things and the women did the women's things and there was very clear defined roles. </p> <p>At the moment in my house I am the breadwinner/homemaker/housecleaner/mother/father/wife/husband/accountant/teacher and just to add to the stress, I am also the student. I juggle the housecleaning with finishing my degree, I am rebuilding broken bits of my house, can replumb my own taps or toilet, paint, plaster, tile. I CAN do lawn work and own a brushcutter and good mower, yet I DONT WANT to do the lawns or maintain the garden, I want to just enjoy them, the same way that most men DONT WANT to clean the house or do the dishes, they just want to relax and enjoy a friendly, warm, inviting house and eat good food served on clean dishware. </p> <p>I want a husband!! I want a partner, one who will share the providing of income. I am getting a degree in nursing and do plan to work as a nurse, I have no problem with working plus keeping a house and mothering, I just want to share the load so that I don't have to be both sides/halves of everything. I thought that wasn't too unreasonable a request. I want someone who will be there for me, I don't have family to do that for me, other than my beautiful kids, so surely its not much to ask for a man who will try to remember my birthday, Christmas, an anniversary (once a year, I don't mind if its not the exact date, or the right day, wrong month, don't care, just once a year do something special) and be there for special things, like when i fuck up an assignment, or pass a stressful exam, or drive me to said exam because I am a basket case that hasn't slept for a week while studying madly! I want help raising my kids, I can make all the decisions, set punishments, decide rewards, do homework etc, but someone to be there as a backup if I have to go away (pracs are good for that), someone to stand with me when I am standing up to a teenager pushing the boundaries. These are the sorts of things I want.</p> <p>I also want to have a shared dream/goal. We used to have that, but then all of a sudden (well it was sudden for me, he didn't tell me things had changed until well after), that shared dream/goal was gone. Now I have future plans, but they are vague, I am working towards them, but without knowing if its just me or if their will be an “us”, I find it hard to make them more clear. </p> <p>The kids and I want to live on a property. I always wanted 100 acres, but now that I am restricted to within 30 minutes of my current residence (due to kids schooling, as well as most of my friends are here, and my mans work and mother are here as well), I find myself looking at properties that are well and truly over inflated in value (two hours west of here 100 acres with no house would be anywhere from $65,000 - $200,000. Here the same bit of land is worth $1,200,000!!). So, I am willing to settle for as small as 10 acres if I really must, just to get out of suburbia (and away from the neighbours from hell, whose favourite pastime is bashing and terrorising white females/children or breaking and entering houses and cars). I want a NEWLY built shed home (after 11 years of fixing things on my 40 odd year old ex housing commission home), and I want a veggie garden and some chooks, horses, goats and a cow or two, as well as my existing dog (aussie cattle dog) and my two cats.</p> <p>Now I can probably get enough of a loan (once current house is sold) once I am working fulltime as an RN, for a small parcel of land and the basic shed home. But I cant see how I can maintain such a property and work fulltime, when I already have trouble maintaining my current quarter acre while studying and working part time. </p> <p>So, I at least have an idea of where I am trying to head, what I am working towards and roughly what I need to do to achieve this, but I have no idea what my man wants, mainly because he either doesn't know or doesn't want to admit it or tell me.</p> <p>So in telling the man I love that I want all of the above, and that I want him as a 100% partner, committed, in the role of husband if he cant face actual marriage (its really just a bit of paper) and role of parent (he is already partly been in that role for years, no real change there, other than admitting it to himself) and that I want him to work out what he wants so we can try to make a shared future. I may have just chased him away, or I may have done the right thing and he might actually face some fears and it might work out.</p> <p>But right now, I am alone (i did ask him for time out, so that i can get some stuff done that i have been putting off but need done before my next prac which is in three weeks time), I need him to hug me and tell me he loves me and doesn't want to lose me, and I am terrified that he will misunderstand me and end it, or that he wont be ready to make a commitment and end it because of whatever reason.</p> <p>So now I am even more fearful, hopeful, terrified and wondering if I have yet again fucked up something good. Except this relationship, it isn't just good, its special, fantastic, everything, and I am afraid of being alone for the rest of my life, living in regret.</p> <p>Ok well I had to tell someone, thanks for reading if you made it this far.</p> Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-91698207354291736182009-10-28T20:02:00.001+11:002009-10-28T20:02:28.264+11:00POO!!<p>LOL well I had this wonderful topic rattling around in my head last night, so decided to share it.</p> <p> </p> <p>What is Poo??  </p> <p>Well for starters, we are not talking about that loveable character “ Winnie The Pooh “ by E.E. Milne.</p> <p>Well as a noun it is a slang or colloquialism for faecal matter, yet it can also be used in the form of a verb, for instance a young child is told to “Go Poo” (preferably in the toilet).</p> <p>It can also be a statement, when walking into a room with a noxious odour, a person might say “Poo” while madly fanning the offending odour away from their sensitive olfactory glands.</p> <p>Another meaning arises when a person needing to swear, yet trying not to because little ears can become parrots, or older ears could be sensitive, so the person says “Oh Poo!!” instead of “That's BullShit” or “FUCK!!!”.</p> <p>It seems Poo is almost a taboo topic, yet everyone does it, everyone knows about it, but we rarely discuss it, other than in select groups, i.e. new mothers suddenly find poo is a common topic of their daily lives, as it is also for nurses or those working in aged care.</p> <p>Most people are shocked to find that doctors, nurses, naturopaths, dieticians and many more “professionals” are interested or concerned about their patients/clients poo.</p> <p>Yet it is so because it is a very simple way to measure the inner health of a person, not only their digestion, but their kidney & liver function, their immune state, and much more.</p> <p>Many couples are horrified that their partner might walk in and catch them in the act of pooing, that seems to be a line, a boundary, once its crossed, their really isn't any more mystery or secrets (thanking my lovely other half for that comment, which was said in jest, but it fits my topic so well lol). I wonder though, if you cant discuss poo with your partner, who can you discuss it with? </p> <p>Maybe because I am studying nursing, my other half has gotten comfortable with telling me intricate details of his daily motions, questioning my bank of knowledge to analyse any changes, allay any fears. This has partly come about after he had to have stomach surgery and then found out he also has a food intolerance, so has become hyper sensitive to changes in his poo habits as they indicate how well he is tolerating new foods (or not tolerating them).</p> <p>Poo is a constant topic between mothers and their children. About to leave on a long car trip, its common to send children to “go poo and wee NOW”, knowing that it could be at least 2 hours until the next available toilet. Or simply going grocery shopping, halfway through filling a trolley with the needed items, your child announces that they DESPERATELY need to poo. Not all shops are ok with minding your half filled trolley while you leave the shop, especially if it already contains perishables or items on sale.</p> <p>Having a son on the “interesting” scale, at almost 12 yrs of age, I still have to ask him to wipe properly or wash his hands with soap and I still have to soak poo trails out of his underwear and probably will have to do this for the rest of his life (or at least until someone else takes over his washing for me). However I thank God regularly and remind myself that I am pretty lucky, I know other parents with “interesting” children who have it far worse on the Poo scale, some having to clean up daily poo parties that involve linen, walls, carpet and even family members tooth brushes (Hugs K!), So in the scale of things, I am very lucky that when God was handing out all the different traits the “interesting” children could choose to make their own personal rainbow, that my child didn't choose anything worse.</p> <p>I also deal with poo on a daily basis at the moment as we have a kitten in the pica stage of development, making cleaning her litter tray interesting, as you remove chunks of poo decorated with bits of colour paper, balloons, beads, crayons and anything else she decided might be interesting to eat. I am often amazed she manages to pass some of these things through her gut.</p> <p>This often reminds me of my children going through daycare/preschool. I could always tell the days they had made playdough as they used to make it with glitter in it for decoration and my son would eat it, resulting in a nappy full of “glitter poo” later that night or early the next morning.</p> <p>By now, if you’ve read this far, you may wonder HOW or WTF got me onto this topic. Well to be honest I am not totally sure. It could have been a post I read from a mother of a young child that reminded me of the “glitter poo” nappies, or the discussing with my partner after we both came down with gastro due to drinking bore water while away on the weekend, or it could have just been my unusual brain’s habit of providing me with random topics to keep me awake at nights.</p> <p>So before I finish, I will leave you with some interesting facts.</p> <ul> <li>If you are healthy, you should poo at least once a day, at a fairly regular time.</li> <li>It should not be pale or khaki in colour, nor dark or black.</li> <li>It should not be runny, nor should it be hard, pebbly or dry.</li> <li>It should not float.</li> <li>Mucousy poo is a sign of bowel inflammation.</li> <li>Black is processed (old) blood, so if you haven't eaten raw meat or taken iron supplements, then go see your doctor ASAP if you have black or black flecked poo.</li> <li>If you find it hard to poo regularly, try drinking half a litre of warm water about 20 minutes before your “poo time”. </li> </ul> <p>Mine is in the mornings, normally 20 minutes after my morning coffee, so I know something is wrong if this time has come and gone and I haven't “gone” (In my case this generally means I have been naughty and eaten wheat and will suffer painful cramping and bloating later on).</p> <p>Keeping a track of your poo may sound gross, but having that knowledge ready means the next time a nurse or naturopath or doctor etc asks you about your bowel habits, you can pleasantly surprise them with detailed knowledge.</p> <p>Alright well that's enough shit about shit lol.</p> <p>And if you haven't already today :- </p> <p>GO POO!!!!!</p> Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-63724887017368990482009-10-09T01:01:00.001+11:002009-10-09T01:11:10.210+11:00Midnight PonderingsHave you ever had something that you really wanted, a goal or a dream, that wasnt entirely impossible, yet it terrified you beyond imagining, kept you awake at night, or woke you up from a sound sleep feeling anxious??<br />
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I often turn the lights out, put my head on the pillow, get comfortable, yawn, cuddle up to my man and then theoretically I should just ease into a sound and peaceful sleep. Right???<br />
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Wrong.<br />
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Just like tonight, my body is exhausted, I have to be up in a few hours and yet I cant sleep, and its all because my brain wont shut up and worst of all, its worrying and anxious, bordering on depressed, and not being able to get the answers it needs because to do that, I would have to admit my fears and worries and then put everything on the line, risking more hurt and rejection than I am already feeling and worrying about.<br />
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True, its possible the answers might be good and make me feel so much better, but to be truthful, I have very little confidence in that being the case, and there lies the crux of my problems..... Confidence.<br />
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I had a great friend in highschool, many many moons ago, that was one of the most cheerful, happy, lovely girls I have ever met. At sixteen she was at least 20 maybe 30 kilo's overweight, and while it bothered her, she never let it stop her enjoying life, friends, parties etc. The only time she ever admitted it bothered her was when we had a heart to heart one day about the most common thing a sixteen year old girl talks about ... BOYS. She had had many crushes on boys over the years, only for them to treat her like just another boy, while making googoo eyes at all her friends and she was certain this was because of her weight. I asked her why she didnt do something to try and change her weight, offering to be there to support her if she wanted me there, her answer shocked me.<br />
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She was SCARED of losing that weight, because she would have nothing to hide behind then and she had seen how bitchy and unhappy most of the skinny girls were and didnt want to be like them. That was an answer I had never expected to hear and couldnt understand at the time.<br />
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Yet here I am now, understanding because I have similar fears and wishing I hadnt lost contact with that girl (have been trying to find her on the internet for years now), so I could talk to her again, see how she went, did she conquer those fears??<br />
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You see when we had that chat years ago, I was 62kg, putting me at least 5 - 10kg underweight for my height and bone structure, even though I ate enough for three people every day, I just had a hyperactive metabolism. Then when I was diagnosed with endometriosis at 17 I started taking the recommended drug (depoprovera) and within 6 months I had almost no metabolism, barely ate enough for an ethiopian child to survive on, and had boomed up to 96kg. Several operations later plus the birth of 2 children and the resulting total hysterectomy, I weighed in at 135kg. Double the weight I had been 6 years prior. I was so unhappy and never felt like I was "ME" but try as I may, I could only get down to 105kg. <br />
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Thats what I weighed when I met my soulmate, the man of my dreams (literally and figuratively). He fell in love with me in spite of my weight, the size of my clothes or the fact that I wouldnt wear swimmers or swim in public. We used to walk all over the place, do activities that I hadnt done in years, have fun etc and I was so happy that with a little help, I managed to get down to 83kg, but I lost a lot of muscle tone in doing that, so wasnt as fit as I had been when we first met and this was noticeable because I wasnt as active, tired all the time etc. <br />
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A year later our relationship hit rock bottom without me even realising until it was too late that he wasnt happy, and one of the many reasons he finally told me was that he wanted a partner that was fit and active like he was, one that he could play football with or go to the gym with or swim at the beach with. I was devestated to say the least. It took 8 months but he got past the other issues that had been causing him to feel depressed and came back to me and slowly we have rebuilt our relationship, yet it isnt totally rebuilt yet and I often fear that one day he will leave again, and because of that, my self image is very fragile. Simple comments can shatter me when they were not meant that way and seeing myself in the mirror makes it all the more scarier because he is so active and fit and has such strong goals to get muscled up, that I wonder if he is revolted when he sees me naked. I wouldnt blame him because I am revolted everytime I see me in the mirror. So I got a gym membership and have slowly begun getting fit, slowly because a normal workout means I am exhausted for the next two days and in pain for at least three. <br />
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The fact that I dont go to the gym more than once a week seems to frustrate him, and it frustrates me too, but I cant explain or tell him my fears, so there is no way he could know just how hard it is. How do I explain that I have noticed that while I am getting fitter and stronger, I seem to be looking fatter! I know I am not getting fatter, but unfortunately all those operations and two babies over 9 pounds have left my stomach muscles very weak and the skin stretched, maybe beyond the point of self repair, so as I lose weight, my stomach seems to sag all the more noticeably, making me look worse and worse and while my arms and upper body start to tone up, my legs seem to be looking more and more shocking.<br />
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Dont get me wrong, I know its a long process, I know that it takes a lot of work to lose weight and tone up and I was prepared for that, but I wasnt prepared for the stomach. I guess i had kind of hoped that if I lost the weight slowly and gently that it would have a chance at repairing and tightening and toning itself. It makes me wonder about all those people that go on things like the biggest loser, how much stomach surgery do they have to have later on, how much do they not tell anyone about when it comes to fears and image problems that are actually worse during the process than they were before they lost weight.<br />
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Even worse is that my mind runs away with me, my man has been very tired this week, especially with daylight savings buggering his body clock and making it that he has to get out of bed an hour before his body is used to waking up, getting up in the dark again after he just got used to the fact that the sun was up before he was, so he hasnt been interested in any bedtime activities other than snoring soundly. BUT when he fails to show me that much needed extra attention, my low self image and low confidence suggests that maybe he has noticed the even more saggy stomach and is revolted by it as much as I am, but is just being too nice to tell me so. So instead of curling up warm and comfy with him, I lie there feeling like a leper, worrying that he will see some cute young female during the day (he is a tradie, comes across all sorts of people everyday) and that he will start seeing and comparing the differences, or worse, has already done that and found me lacking. Is this really the case?? Well I dont know, I certainly hope its not, but I am too petrified to ask, because maybe it is, but if it isnt, maybe he hasnt noticed the extra saggy belly and I dont want to bring attention to it, so I curl up and face those fears and worries by myself until my exhausted body takes over and simply knocks me into unconciousness.<br />
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And all those worries and fears bring me to remembering that conversation that day with my friend about how she could be SCARED to lose weight. <br />
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I understand now. I just wish I could find her and tell her that and maybe make up for not understanding back then.Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-4527165619179494442009-10-01T01:08:00.002+10:002009-10-01T01:57:37.584+10:00Todays Men - A VENT!!Brand new tyre (well 14 days old), drove over a screw and punctured it on the way to swimming lessons, so I ended up having to change a dead flat rear tyre on a stationwagon in the middle of a carpark. <br />
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Not a problem because for all of the things my father has done wrong in my life, he did that one thing very right, he made sure I am independant, capable and able to do anything I set my mind too. <br />
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HOWEVER, I was amazed to watch 30 (yes I am anal enough to have counted them all) cars drive past me in the car park, 20 of them having healthy looking males in them, a lot wearing tradesmen or council clothing AND NOT 1 stopped to offer me help, but plenty stopped within metres of me to park their car and get out to go to the pool or the gym. <br />
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Several men came out of the gym, grinned, ogled boobs (i was not dressed for changing tyres today) and then got in their cars and drove off!! BASTARDS!!! . Only offer of help that I got was from a 50+ year old woman!!!<br />
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No matter that i am capable and independant (even with a bruised cruciate and a broken toe),<br />
but HOW FUCKING RUDE TODAYS MALES HAVE BECOME!!!! <br />
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AT LEAST OFFER A LADY ASSISTANCE!!!! DONT JUST STARE AS YOU DRIVE PAST!!!Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-86035318939590245712009-10-01T01:04:00.001+10:002009-10-01T01:06:20.464+10:00They say a change is as good as a holiday, well whoever "they" are, they were WRONG!!I decided to try a new and very simple recipe for dinner tonight as I am somewhat sick of eating the same things over and over again, but on a budget and with food intolerances/allergy, this is not always as easy as it sounds. To make it harder, I have a child that cant cope with change, even simple little things changing can cause him (hmm trying to think of a single word that can describe it) issues.<br />
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The recipe called for chicken, basil, peanut oil, shallots, chinese cabbage, garlic, lime juice, sugar and fish sauce.<br />
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I bought wombuk. My kids stood in the shop and argued whether it was chinese cabbage or not, thankfully that argument ended in laughter when Boo argued that the label said it was a WomBAT not a cabbage!! (there is nothing wrong with her reading, its just that information goes in, gets muddled and comes out funny sometimes, generally causing Moo and myself to disolve into fits of giggles at innapropriate moments while Boo either giggles with us or stomps her foot and cries in frustration).<br />
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BUT heaven help me, silly me, I let Moo read the ingredient list, he argued most of it, and he wonders why his mother is losing her sanity!! It is at this point I wonder WHY I got the really smart kid that questions everything, yet doesnt understand if its not all black and white and exactly as its written. He is MINE and I wouldnt give him up or change him for anything in the world or beyond, but I do sometimes wonder WHY, and these wonderings are generally at moments like tonight, when trying to rationalise a shopping list to a prepubescent, precocious, PITA, Moo!<br />
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The bloody shop didnt have anything with a label that said shallots:(<br />
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Dont they know that if it doesnt have the right label then I am going to have to spend half an hour explaining why i am buying the wrong one that is the right one or can be used inplace of the right one, just so the child with the list will hopefully let me get back to the car before my head explodes!! <br />
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So after all of that I i bought spring onions and on the way to the car at least Moo said they look similar so he thought it would be ok if we used them instead (Thanking God for that revelation occurring so bloody quickly, at least next time I will be able to grab spring onions and not explain them). He then spent the trip home arguing the difference between shallots and chives with his sister, as Boo was trying to explain that she had seen the plant i wanted in flower in my garden (garlic chives, similar but not).<br />
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I bought the fish sauce from the thai place downtown just before Boo's dance lesson earlier in the afternoon. Well if that didnt cause me a headache and a half!! They were still arguing about it after the lesson and all the way into the grocery shop. <br />
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Did you know that if it has a picture on the front of the bottle that is a squid, then the stuff in the bottle MUST be made of liquid squid?? <br />
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Dont worry that it MIGHT be a BRAND NAME rather than an INGREDIENT!!! Oh and have a child having very noisy verbal palpitations because now the meal is going to TASTE LIKE SQUID instead of chicken. How dare I subject him to such CHANGE during his favourite activity (eating apparently rates higher than computer games or tv). The other child thought it might be soy sauce with a bit of fish added. Funny enough neither of them actually asked me WHAT was in the bottle (anchovies and seasalt to be precise). I try not to look or notice the faces of the people trying to shop near and around us, its easier if I dont see the looks.<br />
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At least the basil in a tube (wasnt any fresh basil), garlic in a jar (dont ask me why, but my son likes eating it straight from the jar!) and lime juice in a bottle ( by this stage my head was hurting too much to work out how many limes i would need to make 1/4 cup of juice) were easily grabbed and the only argument was from Boo who wanted to know (and I quote) " Are you looking for something Mummy or are we just aimlessly wandering down the aisles??", gee i wonder where she heard that from??<br />
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The chicken wasnt contested for a change, probably because it didnt have skin or bones!! Neither was the bottle of milk i requested, but thats because i promised never to buy kids milk again, the added omega three made it taste something shocking!! However we did have the argument that carrying the milk through two aisles meant they had numb fingers, but for some reason ended up with 2 x 3ltr bottles, I think maybe my kids like milk??.<br />
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I did mean to buy a few other things, but by the time i got that much my head was pounding, my broken and sliced up toe was throbbing and my knee (really got to stop injuring the stupid thing) was aching from trying not to step on aforementioned toe, so with all the ingredients for the meal I wanted to make, I decided to get out of there while I was still slightly sane and capable of actually preparing and cooking it. Good thing said children desperately wanted to watch the spearman experiment (or whatever its called), because it got them to make their beds and clean their rooms while I destressed infront of the computer for a bit and then kept them occupied while i cooked, so they dont know that I didnt follow the recipe exactly, i modified it to suit myself amd didnt have to answer or explain that to anyone (yayy).<br />
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On the bright side they loved the meal, gave me glorious rave reviews (apparently my meals are being reviewed and marks are being recorded in a notebook somewhere) and then went to bed without too much argument (only a few whines from the male child). I think I shall make this meal again (well I had to buy a litre of fish sauce, was the smallest bottle I could find, got to use it on something lol). <br />
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I guess overall the change wasnt too bad, would be nice if it was just a little less blood pressure raisingly painful to get through, especially when it occurs on a regular basis and it normally takes the same thing over and over and over and over and over until we can do it without the conniptions and palpitations and stress headaches.Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-69700600578755821342009-10-01T00:56:00.000+10:002009-10-01T00:56:16.999+10:00Holland Down Under - The Clog Barn<div><br />
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My swap partner A, lives in a rural area, a few hours outside a regional city, as do I (although my rural area is considered a rural city), so I dont know yet wether she has received the parcel from me, it can take up to two weeks to get a parcel to or from my area and this has had two public holidays occur since posting, so I will put up the pics I took of the parcel I sent to her and when I receive the parcel from her in return I will put up another post.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkoZ5ZPgYQT0Zx6GGP9C_m2EBhqb07neLJSZFgD_4zUvcYwsy8VU9H3az8S3ujc3yYfnhJvBAIz1Ob49QdwbQErOdDa_tSNfgTFnv_ENqfQcDUqdQuY0Nge0_qDswxJ7KS2tzde9zarxiy/s1600-h/100_2811.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5183438038568164978" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkoZ5ZPgYQT0Zx6GGP9C_m2EBhqb07neLJSZFgD_4zUvcYwsy8VU9H3az8S3ujc3yYfnhJvBAIz1Ob49QdwbQErOdDa_tSNfgTFnv_ENqfQcDUqdQuY0Nge0_qDswxJ7KS2tzde9zarxiy/s320/100_2811.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEje8-Anh5IfSrxzJuQ1AY7XyLz7Jqgi531woWP_txdHwqBawQZqFPzWbIDPQBIrn1LS0TMgIBxHK_zQh-pZjgwtLQNAB8esLrX7VgGhnbes3hXlpOx1iBlGM3l5TA6sesilaA7mh6AYx7kI/s1600-h/100_2816.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5183438047158099586" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEje8-Anh5IfSrxzJuQ1AY7XyLz7Jqgi531woWP_txdHwqBawQZqFPzWbIDPQBIrn1LS0TMgIBxHK_zQh-pZjgwtLQNAB8esLrX7VgGhnbes3hXlpOx1iBlGM3l5TA6sesilaA7mh6AYx7kI/s320/100_2816.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEil57mngzsJiiaj10CjNc0LieNaapZbWDm40CixUQFcEzMPeqngDGOFlvTCcvP17D0t_2HKaaD2qn4qstBNyTWlJ9PMGeU2qMtEKke6a22jul7u7iSdwGwDy6vFsZWBBLT5djr9vA-U2hdN/s1600-h/100_2814.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5183438060043001490" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEil57mngzsJiiaj10CjNc0LieNaapZbWDm40CixUQFcEzMPeqngDGOFlvTCcvP17D0t_2HKaaD2qn4qstBNyTWlJ9PMGeU2qMtEKke6a22jul7u7iSdwGwDy6vFsZWBBLT5djr9vA-U2hdN/s320/100_2814.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /></div><br /><div></div><br /><p></p><br /><p></p><br /><p></p><br /><p></p><br /><p>The pics above are of little lavender sachets, that were made from our own homegrown lavender, that has been dried in bunches hanging in our house and then my children helped to remove any stalks or spiky bits, to handmill the flowers to release more oil into the mix and then bagged in pretty sachets. There was PINK (part of the swap conditions) and maroon bags. Added to this two little easter chickens for A's two little boys and a necklace for A, who always has such beautiful clothes and I really felt this would look fantastic on her. The bag was an addition made by my beautiful Boo (7 next month) who thought the swap idea was the most fantastic thing she had ever heard of (pretty presents when its not your birthday!). Didnt have any cards, so printed a letter on dolphin stationery and folded it to fit inside the bag.</p><br /><div>Will post pics when I receive my parcel from A.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Hugs,</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Erin!<br /></div><br /><div></div><br /><div><br /><br /></div><br /><div></div>Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-29739498374279219652008-03-29T12:29:00.005+11:002008-12-11T07:51:29.620+11:00SMILEY SATURDAY!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSH4xW99t2A8hNKlOCtU0vrwB12LYMQZngs9znid1mecyIk47D4r6sK5iyQcxtG1qwYn1RDHOdzrHaHXWHYa7iUAlrOs5lT9VD4AlyKizb15maQm3p-Ea57V94iJxf60juGwhtWI-2FOcw/s1600-h/smiley-saturday-2.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5183439601936260786" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSH4xW99t2A8hNKlOCtU0vrwB12LYMQZngs9znid1mecyIk47D4r6sK5iyQcxtG1qwYn1RDHOdzrHaHXWHYa7iUAlrOs5lT9VD4AlyKizb15maQm3p-Ea57V94iJxf60juGwhtWI-2FOcw/s400/smiley-saturday-2.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div><div></div><div>Ok well I am very slack and have been meaning to write a number of Smiley Saturday Posts recently.<br /><br />Smiley Saturday is a <a href="http://www.lighteningonline.com/category/smileysaturday/">Lightening Online </a>idea that is just a fantastic way to really think about and express at least one reason to be thankful, happy, smiley etc each week. Thanks for the inspiration Lightening!!<br /><br />Now, please forgive me, but I am going to combine several Smiley Saturdays into one post.<br /><br />My first Smiley Saturday, I was thankful and smiling to attend a prenuptual barbeque, being hosted by my 2nd Cousin for her beautiful Daughter J, who was a bout to get married to her longterm partner (sweethearts since early highschool) A.<br /><br />Now I was even more thankful because J, 23 or 24 this year (my 3rd cousin??) has been battling malignant melanoma that keeps reoccurring in the same place, and this last operation, they found that it was because it was on both sides of the main muscles in her cheek. Now this girl is absolutely gorgeous, could have been a model and still could, yet instead she chose to be a swimming instructor, pool lifeguard and then pool manager, to save kids from drowning.<br /><br />So, with the last operation only a few months ago and then radium therapy, she has lost a fair amount of hair, has lost the majority of sensitivity and taste from her tongue and has been suffering the sideeffects, the worst being chronic fatigue.<br /><br /><br />My next Smiley Saturday was to post that the Beautiful J and SHY but funny A got married on a cliff overlooking the ocean in the small beachside town where her grandparents (my great uncle and great aunt) had a holiday unit and eventually moved too. Even more reason to be thankful was that my great aunt was able to be there and was reasonably lucid (she has dementia, diabetes and severe asthma and has had to move into high dependency care) to see her granddaughter get married. Her grandfather had passed away several years ago, but his spirit would have been there no matter what the cost, he was devoted to his daughter and his grandchildren.<br /><br />A's mother was there and before the wedding, they performed another ceremony, as A's sister was killed in a semi versus car incident a number of years ago (she was a friend of mine from highschool) and then A's father passed away around 12 months after the loss of his daughter, so they had a remembrance for A's missing sister and father, so that even in death, they too could be there for the wedding. This was a very simple, yet touching way to include them.<br /><br />Another Smiley Saturday, is that my father is now taking an active part in my life and the life of my children again, we had spent the last four years (which is a huge length of time for a kid that isnt 7 yet) with no more contact than four phone calls. He has now had christmas lunch, a birthday lunch for my Moo (10th bday) and then Easter lunch this past Sunday.<br /><br />HUGS!!</div>Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-47083112600297585092008-02-22T15:27:00.005+11:002008-12-11T07:51:29.941+11:00Wheat, Gluten & Dairy Free Pumpkin Scones!<div>Inspired by the talk of Fresh HomeGrown Veggies and simple baking of delicious munchies such as Scones, courtesy of <a href="http://www.lighteningonline.com/">Lightening Online</a>, <a href="http://chookiesbackyard.blogspot.com/">Chookies</a>, <a href="http://down---to---earth.blogspot.com/">Down To Earth</a> & <a href="http://www.dancingwithfrogs.com/">Dancing With Frogs</a>, I decided to be adventurous and try to bake some Gluten, Wheat & Dairy Free Pumpkin Scones.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Now this doesnt sound much, but I have almost forgotten how to bake as for a long time with both kids having such opposite food intolerances, it was just too hard and too expensive, I had to get my head around normal things like school lunches and dinners that didnt take me all night to do (one is anaphylactic to egg, dairy intolerant but can eat wheat & loves fish but hates chicken and meat, the other is severely wheat and gluten intolerant, cant stand fish and lives on eggs, dairy, meats and fresh produce).</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>So, I managed to succeed in making an edible and rather delicious pumpkin scone with my own homegrown Jap Pumpkin and BOTH KIDS CAN EAT IT (although Miss Boo will only be able to have small amounts as it does contain cooked egg, but her medications cover the reactions to trace amounts of cooked egg, so she will only wheeze rather than have anaphylaxis).</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Here is the recipe:</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>1/2 Cup of Sugar (I used ordinary white sugar for this)</div><br /><div>1/4 Teaspoon of Salt</div><br /><div>1 Tablespoon of Nuttelex ( I used 2 soup spoons lol as I cant find my tablespoon)</div><br /><div>1 cup of cooled mashed pumpkin</div><br /><div>1 Egg</div><br /><div>2 1/2 Cups of Self Raising Flour (Orgrans Self Raising Flour)</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Plus another 1/2 - 1 Cups of Self Raising Flour on board to turn mixture out onto</div><div> </div><br /><div></div><ol><li>Preheat oven at 250 degrees celcius and place shelf at the top.</li><br /><li>Prepare tray with grease or grease paper.</li><br /><li>Using an electric beater, mix the sugar, salt and butter to resemble breadcrumbs.</li><br /><li>Mix in the Egg and then the pumpkin.</li><br /><li>With beaters turned off, fold in the flour (lighter consistency than icing sugar, so turns into a dust cloud if the beaters are on before its mixed through) , once moist, beat until mixture is consistent.</li><br /><li>Turn out onto board with the other 1/2 cup of flour and attempt to knead (it is very sticky, reminiscent of CLAG GLUE). At this stage if you think it is too sticky, slowly add more flour and knead a little more.</li><br /><li>Break into smaller chunks, shape or round as desired (i just made them into rounds about 5 cms diameter and 3 cms high).</li><br /><li>Cook for 10 - 15 mins dependant on your oven (mine took 13 mins)</li><br /><li>Place on rack to cool slightly and then serve with some more Nuttelex ( or butter and cream if you can have dairy!)</li></ol><br /><p>Ingredients in Orgrans Self Raising Flour are : - Maize Starch, Tapioca Flour, Rice Flour, Raising Agents (glucono delta lactone & sodium bicarbonate) and Guar Gum.</p><p><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5169663802517285186" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGYFXQLr1G83rT922vLg21B2nwUcTDGtVCYL_KjfoxXug7RAfLe2VoQGUvpzzSr16tnM53ELiALDxDamlN4t99zwsOC_zhKX8pvpnk2iAnozwRgy3iiQK0EQpxiBCrB5r2nCK0DtDX7pBs/s400/100_2774.JPG" border="0" /></p><div>And the results speak for themselves (ignore the burnt bits, my oven and I have issues), the mix made 8 decent sized scones (I have already scoffed two and sent one over the road for my boyfriends mother to try, as we are trying to convince her that gluten/wheat free doesnt necessarily mean taste free).</div><div> </div><div>Cheers!</div>Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-7392808157656386932008-02-21T02:34:00.007+11:002008-12-11T07:51:30.206+11:00More Bling! Thanks Lightening!LOL someone put the nar narnar nar narr narrr song into my head (I am very song impressionable at the moment lol, and somewhat loony going by my last post). So, thanks to a certain <a href="http://www.lighteningonline.com/">Lightening</a> moment, I now have running through my head:<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">I have more bling I have more bling Nar narnar nar narrr narrrr. </span><span style="color:#000000;">(I must go play some music now to get that out of my head or I will dream it too lol).</span><br /><br />Anyways,<br /><br />Thankyou <a href="http://www.lighteningonline.com/">Lightening</a> for my new bling. Tis very Pink too, can see why you liked it.<br /><br /><br /><br /><p><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5169087301942044962" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSwt4P-zjqCUc_R6JBkrp6SLur2Kzkc6L3Qxm7catN_2ExitaTbvfVCpRhmDaMzEK_Ij2p4SCWVY6m1kgfYw3VLPyd36CyEP3Cyw0HAZp6FK0lcRgB41zE5ip3U17AiJhJx74fQt0lpSU6/s400/btb_pink_smoothie.png" border="0" /><br />This award originated from<a href="http://www.meandmydrum.com/a-new-badge-is-born-be-the-blog/" modo="false"> Me and my Drum</a><br /><br /><span style="color:#ff99ff;">{"</span><span style="color:#ff99ff;">To accommodate a variety of blog themes, I have created three different “flavors” of badges: Creamy Cabernet, Midnight Oil, and Pink Smoothie. </span><br /><br /><span style="color:#ff99ff;">Earlier this year I was tagged with the blogging tip meme in which the tip I offered was “Be the Blog“. That phrase stuck with me because I think</span><span style="color:#ff99ff;"> that really sums up what a successful blogger does. And what I mean by successful is that they make it their own, stay with it, are interactive with their readers, and just plain have fun. </span><br /><br /><span style="color:#ff99ff;">Since then I’ve been thinking about creating an award of my own, but with so many out there, it’s hard to find a niche that remains untapped for recognition. So I said, “What the heck?”, and decided to shape the phrase into an award called (you guessed it): Be The Blog."}</span></p><p>There considering tis so pink, </p><p>I think <a href="http://www.magnetoboldtoo.com/">Kelley</a> and <a href="http://nbeltane.blogspot.com/">Nicole</a> must have a copy, Does <a href="http://dancestothebeetofherowndrum.wordpress.com/">Bettina</a> like pink?? (Hmm memo to self, must find out) oh and Angel hun, a copy for you and the sweet little B, just save it on your computer, display it on your desktop for B to look at.</p>Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-8389339622395611332008-02-20T01:36:00.005+11:002008-02-20T01:50:58.909+11:00SING IT WITH ME!!I am tired, study is mindwarping and its raining AGAIN!! So instead of finding out if Ovarian Cancers can have teeth (my answer was yes, just have to back it up with a page number for evidence) my head was thinking this little ditty:<br /><br /><span style="font-size:130%;color:#ff0000;"><em>Its Raining Again!! I cant hear me over the noise of it pouring!!</em></span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;color:#ff0000;"><em>Im studying female reproductive disorders while everyone else is snoring,</em></span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;color:#ff0000;"><em>If I jump into bed, my knee will hurt so much I will NEED to bang my head</em></span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;color:#ff0000;"><em>And I will still have to get up at some awfully early hour in the morning.</em></span><br /><em></em><br />Now dont all gag at once, lol I never claimed to be a poet or a songwriter. It was shorter when i first sang it, but the novelist in me had to put two verses into one, it describes it so much better!<br /><br />Ok well back to hysterectomies, vulvectomies, kegels, fistulas and other such stuff that i will be required to answer questions on later today. Good thing I am female and already know half this stuff and can answer without blushing. I think that comes from having children, lol after half the medical staff in the area have seen you naked with a kids head sticking out, then there is no reason to blush when saying words like vagina, vulva, penis etc. Funny thing (well from my warped point of view) is our tutor blushed lololol and she is a fully trained nurse and teacher and not exactly young anymore.<br /><br />Mwuhahaha being wicked is definitely enjoyable. :pDollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-10942415568891901082008-02-19T23:46:00.002+11:002008-02-19T23:50:38.482+11:00Odd web things.lol now my last comment on a friends blog apparently upset wordpress, it gave me a screen saying do you really want to post this cause it contains the word cialis. Heres me wondering where on earth they thought this word was (and what does it mean?).<br /><br />Turns out its part of the word Spe<span style="color:#ff6600;">cialis</span>t (which was in my post) lolol and its a brand name for Erectile dysfunction medication. lolol.<br /><br />Another blog i like commenting on uses those horrid read the distorted letters then type them into this box for your comment to be accepted. Problem is, everytime i type them in, it never accepts them the first time and I have to type them again. I have double and triple checked that I am not using caps-on, spacing them or anything of the sort that might cause an issue, I am sure its just that the blog doesnt like me leaving comments lol (as in the actual blog server, not the blogger, cause I am sure the blogger would tell me if they didnt want me leaving comments).<br /><br />What weird things have happened to you whilst blogging, posting or internet browsing??Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-4912309414296147482008-02-18T13:47:00.003+11:002008-12-11T07:51:30.446+11:00I Love this email!!Ok now I have NO IDEA who originally wrote this up, but I have had it forwarded to me by so many people and I just love it and want to share it with you all, but I dont really like forwarding every cute thing I get (cause theres at least ten of them each day that I LOVE, as well as ten or more that I LIKE lol).<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />SO, if anyone knows the actual owner of the below email, I would like to ask their permission to share it but dont know who to ask.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Anyways lol, Here Tis:<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Sign of the times?<br /><br />A little boy goes to his father and asks "Daddy, how was I born?"<br /><br />The father answers: "Well son, I guess one day you will need to find out anyway!<br /><br />Your Mom and I first got together in a chat room on Yahoo. Then I set up a date via e-mail with your Mom and we met at a cyber-cafe.<br /><br />We sneaked into a secluded room, where your mother agreed to a download from my hard drive. As soon as I was ready to upload, we discovered that neither one of us had used a firewall, and since it was too late to hit the delete button, nine months later a little Pop-Up appeared that said:<br /><br />Scroll down...<br /><br />You'll love this....<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5168147408478857490" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHlVm350CKfWPwaDfrXXGgZODXMYJI5Hxxeky60YwmtqA-5eSqz_hfjm788CfhePS7RWqDUoqskfpeuFfZz6BM5YWzq0Jd-p_TMIVfmMMQufS26s6yo9Uap0FnjG8gvOX_D_iyQf_myEd5/s400/baby.gif" border="0" /> <div align="center">'You got Male!'"</div>Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-14701234347409328132008-02-17T22:39:00.003+11:002008-03-30T18:58:58.431+11:00I am BAAAACK!!!Hi My Lovelies,<br /><br /><br /><br />Have missed you all heaps!!!<br /><br /><br /><br />Am finally sitting here with computer all fixed up (although its temporarily located in the corner of my bedroom, so no room for comfy puter chair, just horrid old kitchen chair or one of the kids chairs lol).<br /><br /><br /><br />Just a quick catchup, cause I have to be up at 6.45am every morning now, or the kids dont get to the bus ontime, which is a PITA cause I still dont fall asleep til around 4am (even though I have been going to bed by at least 1am each night) and then at uni at 8am *****just 10 mins after kids bus arrives <span style="font-size:180%;">IF</span> it is on time, leaving me roughly 7 mins to drive 5kms, find a parking spot and hobble at least 1km (IF I AM VERY LUCKY TO GET THAT CLOSE) to my first class or lab.<br /><br /><br /><br />Anyways,<br /><br /><ul><br /><li>we went to Bris for Christmas, was good, more on that later.</li><br /><li>It rained lots and flooded here several times, although my house only suffered minor flooding cause I live ontop of a mountain and only suffered the 2foot deep water that backed up from the front yard and under the house because it couldnt run down the hill faster than it fell from the sky at several points.</li><br /><li>My yard now resembles a waist high jungle/swamp that the mower cant get through as it keeps sinking into the quickslime/mud/used-to-be-a-driveway.</li><br /><li>I never got the painting finished in the loungeroom cause it rains EVERY F***ING DAY!!! and not all my windows are covered by overhanging roof etc.</li><br /><li>Same goes for rewalling the bathroom, very hard to take cement sheeting outside to cut it with powertools and then paint it with waterproofing goo WHEN IT WONT STOP RAINING!</li><br /><li>Oh and the piece de resistance - I rearranged my knee! So spent 2 weeks with a large splinty thing (great nurse I am lol cant even remember what its called) wrapped around it, hobbling on crutches (best investment i ever made when i bought those 10 years ago), doped on pain killers that made me spew all over DBF (Hats off to him, he managed to hold me upright while being spewed on, cause I couldnt use the crutches and hold a bowl and get to the bathroom intime) and have since been slowly getting around, stairs are a PITA lol!</li><br /><li>Mr Moo turned 10, we had a fantastic party for him in Brisbane with my aunty and one of my brothers (the other one didnt turn up - asshat as Kelley would say)</li><br /><li>Mr Moo has almost got his Official Dx (Diagnosis). The Paediatrician has written in his files that Mr Moo is most definitely On the Spectrum. Now we just have to go do lots of assessments to try and work out where and how much and what this means in relations to school fundings etc.</li><br /><li>Uni starts tomorrow, for a 3 week intensive, and I AM NOT READY!!!!</li></ul><br /><p>Hehehe Well that is the highlights!!!</p><br /><p></p><br /><p>MANY MANY HUGS & THANKS to Precious1 for keeping me posted and sane while I didnt have any net access (found the problem today lol, onboard ethernet card had died, added a standalone card and disabled onboard one and all is fixed, yayyyyyy).</p>Oh and if I dont get around to commenting on any of your blogs just yet, thats cause there is about 500 unread posts and thats not counting Kelleys blog lol (moved while I was away just to confuse me lolol, dont worry, I found it - hehe thanks for the post on the old blog with the redirect lol)<br /><p></p><br /><p>HUGS!!!!!!!!</p><br /><p>ME!</p>Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-43602718982925081352007-12-18T14:25:00.000+11:002007-12-18T14:26:00.164+11:00Back Soon I Promise!!!!Ring me or txt me pls! Left contact details with Kelley! No net access yet as also have loungeroom ripped apart to paint (did ceiling last night, now to do walls and then get carpet in as well as have christmas somewhere in there too!). Hugs and Love Ya All, Miss you heaps and cant wait to get time to actually read some blogs and maybe post on my own lol!Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-18841991687724503972007-11-26T20:23:00.000+11:002007-11-26T20:54:02.029+11:00TV QUIZ =Nightmare!LOL have you ever sat and watched tv quiz shows, know the answers and been so frustrated when the person on the show has a hunch and their hunch is correct, but they waste all their lifelines because they are not sure themselves. You feel like screaming at the tv. lol no wonder i try not to watch these shows often, they are not good for my blood pressure I am sure!<br /><br />Now often they have phone in competitions for the viewers at home to have a go for some quick cash as they say. DS often tells me i should enter these and its true, i havent yet gotten any of them wrong, so tonight, being the last night of the show for 2007, i decided to enter. Hell I should KNOW the answer to the phone in question, the amount of times I have heard <a href="http://magnetoboldtoo.wordpress.com/tag/movember/">Kelley mention MOVEMBER!</a><br /><br />Problem is, I am absolutely freakingly terrified that if they do pick me, that i will go totally blank when they ask me the question. You still get $5000 for getting the phone in question correct, but the other question, also worth $5000, well everyone and anyone will see the show, see the persons name on the screen and hear their answer. So to get it wrong on national tv, there is my worst nightmare lol.<br /><br />But then, even $5000 would make my life so much better at the moment, so lets hope they call me and lets hope i dont make a total fool of myself lol, cause God only knows I could do with that money badly (as could we all in this day and age I am sure) to fix the car, pay off debts, stock up the pantry properly etc etc .<br /><br />I think I should enter a few more competitions that involve email or mail lol, so much less stress, so if you know of any legit comps to enter, let me know lolol.<br /><br />Edit: LOL well it wasnt me, but lol if anyone in australia didnt know the answer to that question there is something wrong lolol.Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-46207916769810922902007-11-20T05:55:00.001+11:002008-03-30T19:00:54.644+11:00To Sleep or Not to SleepLol well sleep has always been an issue for me or for people around me. For the most part, its more of a problem for other people who seem to think that me being awake all night is bad, simply because it isnt the same as the majority of the population. Doesnt matter at all to them that my best work is done at night, my housework is more consistently up to date when done at night, and that I am by far a safer driver at night, not that I am unsafe during the day, but you try getting up only 2 hours after you went to bed at night and see how safe you feel you are, are your reflexes slower? Thats what I worry about when dragging myself out of bed at 8.30am to do a school run.<br /><br />My lack of sleeping to societies ideals of acceptable hours is not from lack of trying.<br /><br />My father apparently tried his damndest to get me to sleep each night, reading book after book, using all the tricks like warm milk, dimmer lights etc, apparently in the end he gave up, fitted out the loungeroom with a comfy chair for him, plenty of toys and books for me and locked the both of us in there so he could doze in the chair secure in the knowledge I couldnt dissapear or harm myself whilst i ran round him in circles all night, building towers with blocks and "reading" to myself. This is what has been described to me as my nightly activities as a toddler.<br /><br />As a child and older teen I spent most nights awake, reading or simply laying there. For many years terrified of the dark, so totally unable to fall asleep without a light. I would fall asleep shortly after dawn and then have a full on day at school to come home and nap somewhere during the afternoon (anywhere in fact, i fell asleep in a tree and rolled out of it, only a metre to the ground, but I still remember the shock of waking up hitting the sand in the sandpit face down).<br /><br />After having children, my nighttime wakefullness was useful, with my first child not being able to wake himself to go to the toilet until he was 8 years old, I spent many hours either changing wet sheets and wet sleeping child or carrying (and then puppet walking as he got bigger) a still sleeping child to the toilet as well as catching the errant sleepwalker to make sure he didnt pee in the dishwasher or next to the toilet etc. My daughter while being able to toilet train herself quite early, often needs asthma reliever medication during the night and the errant sleepwalker was quite severe with his night time asthma as well as night terrors, so being alert and awake all night was much easier than trying to sleep and getting broken sleep.<br /><br />This however was not "normal or acceptable" in the eyes of my ex, and got me quite a bit of harrassment, put downs and even punishment (having him not speak to me for days etc). It also went against the grain of family members who considered me lazy and abnormal for sleeping during the day.<br /><br />Currently my night time wakefullness serves a purpose, the study for my degree, which is not easily acheived with kids awake and asking questions or bugging each other, or even just playing and occasionally requesting snacks, so it is much easier to study after they have gone to bed.<br /><br />My dbf is more accepting of my sleep patterns, although gets irritated when he wants company and I cannot keep my eyes open no matter how i try. He does accept it helps with the study but at the end of the semester, when i am on "holidays" expects me to be around more during daylight hours.<br /><br />This is where the tricky bit comes in, Sleep Retraining. It takes several days to turn my pattern around at the best of times, often it takes longer. This time around it is taking longer, it appeared to have worked after just 5 days, and then after 2 nights of "normal" sleep, my body reverted (partly in blame is the power failure that turned the fan off, which woke me early and then I couldnt go back to sleep that night).<br /><br />So at the moment I am getting tired at 11pm, but cant actually sleep. Lying down is restful for the body, but my brain goes absolutely haywire which eventually ends in me having to get up. The worst part is, that this is the first time in years that I havent HAD to be awake most of the night due to Mr Moo having nightmares, asthma attacks, sleepwalking, bedwetting, toileting or anything else and I STILL CANT SLEEP!! It is totally unfair lol.<br /><br />To this end I am about to retry a naturopathic/homeopathic remedy, one which covers hormones and a few other things, I can't tell you exactly what is in it, other than it was personally made for me based on blood work, history etc and was meant to try and help balance things like pms, but had the shocking side effect of knocking me out within 20 minutes of taking it (something that none of the heavy duty sleeping tablets ever managed). This unfortunately happened right before exam week in june, so had to be stopped, but now that I dont HAVE to stay awake and study, I shall be once again becoming a guinea pig to see if it can help me sleep, and fix the rotten hormonal imbalances that have been plagueing me for years.<br /><br />I will bore you all with the details of its success or failure at a later date. At the moment I am heading back to bed in the hope of 2 hours sleep (I did spend until 5.30am in bed, I just havent managed any sleep). Thankfully DBF can take DD to school for me this morning. LOL now I just have to work out how to get housework done on a regular basis during the day without getting sidetracked.Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-33916171607418934832007-11-19T17:50:00.000+11:002007-11-19T18:15:20.877+11:00Menu PlanningAye Aye Aye what am I thinking??<br /><br />LOL well <a href="http://lightening74.blogspot.com/2007/11/this-weeks-menu.html">Lightening's</a> weekly organisation is rubbing off a little (only just a little mwuhahaha) so I figured I would take up her challenge and attempt a menu plan, BUT don't expect any fancy restaurant labels, lol I have a hard enough time working out a single meal each night that all of us can eat. If I plan for all meals to include DBF, then I have three of us that cannot have wheat/gluten and two that cannot have dairy and one that cannot have egg, two of us that cannot eat fish other than whiting or cod and there is only four of us in total!<br /><br />SO,<br /><br />Tonight being <span style="color:#ff0000;">Monday</span>, we are having a Corned Silverside (from a butcher who DOES NOT USE WHEAT AS A PRESERVATIVE! UNLIKE COLES & WOOLIES!!) Added to this we will have some zuchinni (bought from farmer charlies as my plant only has baby ones just yet), Cos lettuce (from the garden) and maybe some tomatoes if there are any ripe (i am lazy, i just look out the window and direct DBF as to which vegies/fruits I might like this evening).<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">Tuesday</span>, hmm well we shall be having Snags (coles does wheat free ones in their normal bbq snag range) and jasmine rice and frozen vegies steamed and then cooked with a drizzle of honey for taste.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">Wednesday</span> is no kids night, we are having steak, rice and cooked zucchini with some herbs added and homemade gravy (meat juices, water and a titch of salt thickened).<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">Thursday</span>, well I will be going shopping as by then we are out of all meat, chicken etc.<br /><br />So, most likely to be diced Chicken Thigh fillets, Jasmine Rice, zuchini, carrot, Green Thai Curry Paste and Coconut Cream.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">Friday</span>, well depending on the weather, we will be going to Little Athletics in the evening, so it will need to be a nutritious afternoon snack when Boo gets home from school, so baked beans for Boo (her favourite lol)and an Omellete with cheese for Moo and Myself. After we come home, we will have a smaller snack, maybe some diced cheese, apple and carrot and some sultanas. Accompanied by a glass of chocolate Milk.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">Saturday</span> Diced Chicken Thigh fillets, steamed veg with honey glaze and jasmine rice, all stirred in together to look like fried rice.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">Sunday</span> meat of some description (steak or mince if its cheap enough), garden salad with vinaigrette dressing.<br /><br />Ok well thats the plan, will see how we go at sticking to it. At least tonights will be ok as the corned meat is currently cooking away.Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-32709135439328588532007-11-19T03:00:00.000+11:002007-11-19T03:05:52.477+11:00Which Harry Potter Character ARE YOU??Ok well thanks to <a href="http://dancingwithfrogs.blogspot.com/">FrogDancer</a> for the link,<br /><br />Apparently I am<br /><br /><center><img src="http://pages.prodigy.net/hpdevo/quiz/hermi.jpg"><br><a href="http://pages.prodigy.net/hpdevo/quiz"><font face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size="1">Which HP Kid Are You?</font></a></center><br /><br /><br />Mwuhahaha I should have known really Aye?Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4856118795901005979.post-62530241995828169712007-11-18T16:57:00.000+11:002007-11-19T02:18:03.904+11:00THE BIG 8 MEMETagged by KELLEY over at <a href="http://magnetoboldtoo.wordpress.com/">MagnetoBoldToo!</a><br /><br />8 Things I am Passionate About<br /><br /><ol><li>My Kids - They are parts of me, they always come first.</li><li>My dream land & home - I want to just pack up and disappear into the outback, no traffic, smog, noise (well there will be natural noise, that i don't mind), no blaring street lights all night.</li><li>My SEXY MAN - who will read this and get cranky that I called him that :P</li><li>My degree - I will be a Registered Nurse by the end of 2009!</li><li>My Country - WHY DO WE NEED TO DOWNGRADE OUR HEALTH SYSTEM & EMPLOYMENT SYSTEMS JUST TO BE MORE LIKE AMERICA MR HOWARD???</li><li>My environment - Why do we need to use and abuse our planet?</li><li>Good Hygiene - I was born to be a nurse lol cause i cant stand people not washing their hands after toileting or playing with pets or gardening etc.</li><li>NO SMOKING - it doesn't just hurt you, it hurts people around you, like me who cant (and hasn't other than 10 mins the night i turned 18) go to nightclubs without a trip to the hospital just because other people smoke in enclosed spaces or in front of the only door into the shops etc, causing people like me to have asthma attacks etc. If you must abuse yourself with chemicals, choose one that only hurts you - eat heaps of apple seeds or lick a toad/frog etc!</li></ol><p>8 Things I want to do before I die </p><ol><li>Get my 100+ acres & live in a big shed home with no close neighbours or traffic</li><li>Give my kids what i didn't have - nice weddings, help getting their first home, grandparents to babysit or help with sick kids, someone to confide in.</li><li>Visit Ireland, England, Scotland to drool over accents and quaint architecture</li><li>Visit Ethiopia to see the archaeological wonders and to eat really hot Dorowot with traditional Teff Enjerra's.</li><li>Visit Egypt, see archaeological wonders and visit one of my friends from high school.</li><li>Find Tammy Dunstan and say sorry for standing there and not stopping the so called popular girls from humiliating her when we were 14.</li><li>Have my dream wedding, before the eyes of god, family and friends, but no idiotic govt paperwork.</li><li>Tell centrelink (the system, not the staff) to go shove their paperwork and regulations cause i don't need them ever again!<br /></li></ol>8 Things I say often<br /><ol><li>SHUT UP!!!! I can't hear myself think!</li><li>I told you to GO TO BED!</li><li>WASH YOUR HANDS!! WITH SOAP!!!</li><li>What part of NO do you NOT understand????</li><li>Hurry Up or you will be late for (school/soccer/athletics etc.)</li><li>(said to DBF) It's YOUR fault I'm a hormonal mess, You didn't give me enough Sex today! </li><li>I NEED MORE CHOCOLATE!!!</li><li>Please please please .. make me a coffee??<br /></li></ol><p>8 Books I have read recently<br /></p><ol><li>The Man in the Brown Suit - Agatha Christie</li><li>Murder in Mesopotamia - Agatha Christie</li><li>Murder on the Orient Express - Agatha Christie</li><li>Concepts of Altered Health States - Porth</li><li>Pharmacology for Professionals - Bullock</li><li>Anatomy & Physiology - Marieb</li><li>Anatomy & Physiology - Martini</li><li>Pharmacology - Bryant</li></ol><p>Currently reading one of the Xwing series in the StarWars sagas.</p><p><br />8 Songs I could listen to over and over </p><ol><li>YOU - Evanescence</li><li>You are the wind beneath my wings - Bette Midler</li><li>Summer Rain - Belinda Carlisle</li><li>Can't Fight the Moonlight - Leanne Rimes</li><li>Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy - Big & Ritch</li><li>Welcome to the Jungle - Guns & Roses</li><li>Enter Sandman - Metallica</li><li>Anything Mariah Carey, Celine Dion, The Corrs, DIXIE CHICKS!, Faith Hill etc</li></ol><br />8 Things that attract me to my best friends<br /><ol><li>Honesty & Openness</li><li>Friendly personalities </li><li>Down to earth attitudes</li><li>Willingness to help friends & family</li><li>Loyalty and devotion to their children</li><li>Acceptance of me the way I am, who I am etc</li><li>Interesting, intelligent, enquiring minds (they don't have to be rocket scientists, intelligence comes in many forms!)</li><li>Able to chat about anything, whether it be religion, poo, kids, sex experiences, the weather, men, politics, money, clothes etc and be OK with each other having their own opinions, sharing opinions but not forcing them on each other.<br /></li></ol>8 people who should totally do this meme<br />(if you don't have a blog of your own feel free to do it in my comments section!)<br /><ol><li>Robyn </li><li>Kirstie</li><li>Nicole</li><li>Chookie</li><li>Precious 1</li><li>Lightening</li><li>Meg in the Mountains</li><li>Anyone else who would like to!</li></ol>Dollfinn!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14769480785069966525noreply@blogger.com3